Recently, I finished reading a book called Made to Crave by Lysa TerKeurst. The main point of this book is talking about how we fill voids that we are feeling with food instead of things that will give us lasting fullness, like God. I really enjoyed reading this book because of the personal story she shares with you. What really stood out is how she shares her deep inner thoughts to the world, which hardly any of us EVER share with our family and friends, let alone strangers. Sadly, most of our deep inner thoughts tend to beat us down till we're the size of micromachines. We wonder why we don't have any self-worth. We go around looking for anyone or anything to give it to us so we'll feel good about ourselves again. Unfortunately, this doesn't seem to work and if it does, it definitely doesn't last. Rather than looking for self-worth outside of ourselves, we should learn how to find it within ourselves. See if this quote from the book describes how you treat yourself.
“We like to identify our shortcomings, form them into a club, and mentally beat the tar out of ourselves. Over and
over and over again. We label ourselves and soon lose our real identity to the beaten and bruised fragility we call
“me.” We compare, we assume, we assess, we measure, and most times walk away shaking our head at how
woefully short our “me” falls when compared to everyone else. How dangerous it is to hold up to the intimate
knowledge of our imperfections against the outside packaging of others.”
I know finding self-worth is not easy, but I'm sure it'd be a lot easier if we weren't beating ourselves up and constantly comparing ourselves to others when we are all meant to be so different. I'd love to hear some of your ideas of where you find your self-worth.
Rachael Kool, professional counselor and normal, everyday adult screw up